When I was younger, I trained to be a professional tennis player. I had a competitive drive back then, and it served me well. But as I became established in a helping profession, and being an ENFJ, I found myself working more towards harmony than competition. I allowed myself to get out of balance and worked an insane number of hours. I stopped tennis and most other forms of exercise, and gained a lot of weight. Now I’m committed to getting back in shape. I joined WeightWatchers, got a … [Read more...] about What the FitBit Taught Me about Healthy Competition
I recently did a "Getting Things Done" workshop where the first exercise I had the team do was to list on a piece of paper all the things that were on their mind at that moment.... I asked them to be thorough. Then I asked them to think not just about work, but also what was going through their minds about home, family, hobbies, entertainment, etc. If it was on their mind, they needed to get it down on paper. They had only 10mins to do this brain dump. The number of items each team member … [Read more...] about 7 Tips To Be Fully Present When You Have A Lot On Your Mind
You are leading a team, and you want them to do their best. As with all people, including ourselves, there are areas that need to be improved. Your team member says they will work on the change you suggested. However, you have some doubts as to whether or not they will make the change, and if they do, you wonder how deep it will go. Will it be temporary, for the sake of their job, or will it be a true transformation? How can you know? Furthermore, how can you help them, or coach … [Read more...] about How Do You Know If Someone Will Really Change?
If you are going to present to senior leaders, you need to understand that it is different from doing a presentation to your team or to peers. Senior leaders are focused on high-level decision making. Consequently, your presentation needs to support them as they make these decisions. Below are some tips that can be useful when presenting to senior leadership: 1. Over-Prepare. When presenting to senior leaders, it is really important that you over-prepare. Make sure you know not … [Read more...] about 8 Ways to Own Your Senior Leadership Presentation
A client, let’s call her Liz, made a huge transformation. Putting it mildly, she used to have an anger management issue. She was the executive that you never wanted as a boss. At times, she would be super nice and seem like she was your best friend, but if you crossed her or screwed something up that embarrassed her, she could be brutal. After we worked together for about a year, everyone began noticing a remarkable change. Frankly, it was a change that happened faster than most. To be … [Read more...] about How to Lead Your Team Through Personal Change
I was in a meeting with my client (let’s call her Jane), one of her direct reports (let’s call her Martha), Martha’s coach, and someone from HR. As you have probably already guessed, it was one of those meetings. Weeks earlier, Jane had learned that Martha was gossiping about her to other people on the team. How did she learn about it? Not one, not two, but three people on Martha’s team had gone to Jane and shared how uncomfortable they felt around Martha. All three shared how raw and … [Read more...] about Establishing An Ownership Culture Within Your Team