CHEW on God’s Love. Live Transformed. Multiply Hope.
“We don’t just need to know that God loves us—we need to know how His love meets us right where we are.”
Why This Matters
Many people struggle to experience God’s love because it feels abstract or distant, especially in the middle of pain, disappointment, or confusion. But God’s love is not one-size-fits-all. Scripture reveals dozens of specific characteristics of His love, each speaking to a unique need, wound, or longing in our lives. Learning to match your struggle with the right facet of God’s love is a vital step in moving truth from your head to your heart.
Step-by-Step Guide: Matching Your Need to God’s Love
1. Get Honest About Your Struggle or Longing
Take a moment to name what’s really going on.
- Are you feeling anxious, ashamed, lonely, rejected, or overwhelmed?
- Are you longing for purpose, security, forgiveness, or belonging?
Tip: Journaling or praying honestly about your feelings is a powerful first step.
2. Identify the Core Need Beneath the Struggle
Ask:
- What am I really longing for right now? (e.g., acceptance, hope, comfort, affirmation)
- What lie am I tempted to believe about God or myself? (e.g., “I’m not enough,” “God is distant,” “I’ll never change”)
3. Explore the Characteristics of God’s Love
Here are some examples (see the full “30 Characteristics of God’s Love” blog for more):
| If you struggle with… | You may need to focus on… | Key Verse |
| Shame or regret | Forgiving love | 1 John 1:9 |
| Fear or anxiety | Protective, steadfast love | Psalm 36:7; Romans 8:38-39 |
| Loneliness | Personal, present love | Luke 12:7; Hebrews 13:5 |
| Feeling unworthy | Unconditional, affirming love | Romans 5:8; Mark 1:11 |
| Weariness or burnout | Gentle, patient love | Matthew 11:29; Psalm 103:8 |
| Uncertainty about the future | Eternal, sovereign love | Jeremiah 31:3; Deut. 7:7-8 |
| Guilt | Merciful, sacrificial love | Lamentations 3:22-23; John 3:16 |
| Feeling stuck or unchanged | Transforming, enduring love | 2 Corinthians 3:18; 1 Cor. 13:7 |
| Comparison or envy | Unique, delighting love | Psalm 149:4; Zeph. 3:17 |
Tip: If you’re not sure, ask God in prayer or talk it over with a trusted friend or group.
4. Find a Matching Verse and Meditate on It
- Use a Bible app, topical index, your favorite AI or the “30 Characteristics” list to find a verse that expresses this aspect of God’s love.
- Read it slowly, out loud if possible. Let it soak in.
5. Form a CHEW Question
Use the CHEW formula to personalize the truth:
- “If I really believed God’s love is [characteristic], how would that change [my situation, feelings, or response]?”
Examples:
- “If I really believed God’s love is forgiving, how would that change how I see my past?”
- “If I really believed God’s love is steadfast, how would that change my anxiety about the future?”
- “If I really believed God’s love is personal, how would that change my loneliness right now?”
6. Pray and Practice
- Ask God to help you believe and experience this facet of His love.
- Pause and “chew” on this truth throughout your day—especially when the struggle resurfaces46.
Encouragement
You may not always feel God’s love immediately, especially if your experience of human love has been flawed or conditional. But as you keep matching your needs to God’s truth, His love will become more real, specific, and healing in your life.
“Love is not a thing; it is not a concept that you can observe or exhaust or merely just feel. Love is so much more than just an idea. Love is a person and that person is God.”
Transparency Note: This resource is crafted in collaboration with advanced AI tools and thoughtfully finalized by the 1st Principle Group staff to ensure biblical faithfulness and practical relevance for our readers.
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