CHEW on God’s Love. Live Transformed. Multiply Hope.
If you’re reading this, you may feel stuck, ashamed, or tired of fighting alone. You’re not alone—and you’re not beyond hope. Many have walked this road and found real freedom—not by willpower, but by letting God’s holy love meet them in the struggle, one day at a time.
The Gospel assures us that freedom from shame and addiction is not achieved by our own strength, but by God’s love, forgiveness, and power transforming us from the inside out—even in our weakest moments.
How to Use This Resource
- Grab a notebook or download the CHEW Questions Journal Page.
- After each section, pause and write out your answers. Don’t rush—let yourself go deep.
- When you run out of answers, ask a new CHEW question, ask a trusted friend, or look up what wise Christians say about your question.
- At the end, you’ll find a 7-Day CHEW Challenge and ways to connect with others for support.
Step 1: Get Honest About Your Struggle
- What triggers you to look at porn? (boredom, loneliness, stress, anger, curiosity, habit, etc.)
- What are you hoping porn will give you? (comfort, escape, excitement, affirmation, relief, control, etc.)
- What do you feel right after? (shame, numbness, regret, emptiness, self-hate, etc.)
Step 2: Identify the Core Need Beneath the Struggle
- What am I really longing for right now? (to feel loved, to belong, to be seen, to be known, to have peace, to feel alive)
- What lie am I tempted to believe about God or myself? (I’m dirty, I’ll never change, God is disappointed, I’m alone, I’m too broken)
Step 3: Match Your Struggle to a Characteristic of God’s Love
God’s love for you is:
- Forgiving and cleansing (1 John 1:9)
- Unconditional and steadfast (Romans 8:38–39)
- Present and personal (Hebrews 13:5)
- Transforming and powerful (2 Corinthians 3:18)
- Patient and gentle (Psalm 103:8)
- Delighting and affirming (Zephaniah 3:17)
Step 4: CHEW Questions for Porn Struggles
Write out your answers in detail—don’t stop until you can’t think of any more. When you run out, try a new question, ask a friend, or look up biblical resources.
God’s Love Is Forgiving and Cleansing
- If I really believed God’s love is forgiving, how would that change how I see myself after I fall?
- If I really believed God’s love cleanses me completely, how would that change my shame and self-talk?
- If I really believed God’s love removes my sin as far as the east is from the west, how would that change my willingness to get up and try again?
- If I really believed God’s love makes me new in Christ, how would that change my desire to hide?
- If I really believed God’s love keeps no record of wrongs, how would that change my fear of being defined by my past?
God’s Love Is Present and Empowering
- If I really believed God’s love is with me in every moment, how would that change my choices when I feel tempted?
- If I really believed God’s love empowers me to live differently, how would that change my hope for lasting change?
- If I really believed God’s love is strong in my weakness, how would that change my response to urges?
- If I really believed God’s love never leaves me, how would that change my sense of isolation when I’m struggling?
- If I really believed God’s love is patient with my journey, how would that change my discouragement after setbacks?
God’s Love Is Accepting and Identity-Shaping
- If I really believed God’s love calls me “beloved,” not “addict,” how would that change my self-talk after a slip?
- If I really believed God’s love makes me a new creation, how would that change my vision for my future?
- If I really believed God’s love delights in me as His child, how would that change my need for validation from sexual images?
- If I really believed God’s love fully accepts me, how would that change my urge to run to fantasy or escape?
- If I really believed God’s love restores my worth, how would that change my willingness to face my struggle honestly?
God’s Love Is Satisfying and Fulfilling
- If I really believed God’s love truly satisfies, how would that change my cravings for porn or fantasy?
- If I really believed God’s love brings fullness of joy, how would that change what I pursue when I’m bored or lonely?
- If I really believed God’s love is better than any pleasure, how would that change my choices late at night?
- If I really believed God’s love is enough, how would that change my search for comfort or excitement?
- If I really believed God’s love fills my emptiness, how would that change my desire for escape?
God’s Love Is Wise and Protective
- If I really believed God’s love always provides a way out of temptation, how would that change my actions when urges hit?
- If I really believed God’s love gives wisdom generously, how would that change my plan for moments of weakness?
- If I really believed God’s love wants to protect my heart, how would that change my boundaries or device use?
- If I really believed God’s love helps me reach out for help, how would that change my willingness to text a friend when tempted?
- If I really believed God’s love guards my mind, how would that change my choices about what I watch or read?
God’s Love Is Healing and Restoring
- If I really believed God’s love heals brokenness, how would that change my hope for freedom?
- If I really believed God’s love can restore what’s been lost, how would that change my regret over past choices?
- If I really believed God’s love can redeem my story, how would that change my willingness to be honest with others?
- If I really believed God’s love brings beauty from ashes, how would that change my outlook on my journey?
- If I really believed God’s love is gentle with my wounds, how would that change my self-compassion?
God’s Love Is Purposeful and Calling
- If I really believed God’s love has a purpose for my life, how would that change what I do with my time and energy?
- If I really believed God’s love wants to use me for good, how would that change my motivation to pursue purity?
- If I really believed God’s love is greater than my struggle, how would that change my willingness to keep going?
- If I really believed God’s love can use my weakness for His glory, how would that change my story of recovery?
- If I really believed God’s love invites me into freedom, how would that change my next step?
God’s Love Is Community-Building and Supportive
- If I really believed God’s love designed me for community, how would that change my urge to isolate after a fall?
- If I really believed God’s love brings healing through confession, how would that change my willingness to reach out for help?
- If I really believed God’s love is for all who struggle, how would that change my shame or secrecy?
- If I really believed God’s love works through others, how would that change my openness in accountability?
- If I really believed God’s love never gives up on me, how would that change my willingness to keep trying?
Step 5: Meditate, Pray, and Apply
- Reflect on a key verse:
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” —1 John 1:9
Pause and pray: “Father, thank You for Your faithful, cleansing love. Help me believe this is true for me, even now.” - Write the verse on a card or your phone. Repeat it when tempted or discouraged. Ask God to help you trust His promise, not your feelings.
Step 6: 7-Day CHEW Challenge
- Pick one CHEW question each day.
- Journal your answers, going as deep as you can.
- Share one insight with a trusted friend or CHEW group.
- Pray and ask God to help you believe and live out His truth
When You Run Out of Answers
- Pick another CHEW question from this list.
- Try a different characteristic of God’s love or a new angle on your struggle.
- Invite a friend, mentor, or group to chew with you, or pray for God to show you something new.
- Keep chewing—God’s love is deeper and more powerful than your struggle!
Want to Start From the Beginning?
Go back to the New to CHEWing page.
Blessing
May God’s forgiving, present, and satisfying love meet you as you chew on these questions—one honest step at a time.
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Transparency Note: This blog post is crafted in collaboration with advanced AI tools and thoughtfully finalized by the 1st Principle Group staff to ensure biblical faithfulness and practical relevance for our readers. All stories are fictional and not a representation of any one client.
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