The Daily CHEW™
Moving God’s Love From Head to Heart for Christian Professionals
The Tool, Named Plainly
The framework is Radical Candor (Kim Scott): care personally, challenge directly. Care without challenge slides into ruinous empathy — kind words, no growth. Challenge without care turns obnoxious. The two ride together, or you have neither.
What’s Really Going On Here
Most senior leaders do not have a feedback problem. They have a softening problem. The harder truth gets edited in the elevator, edited again at the doorway, and by the time it lands on the table it is unrecognizable. The team member nods. Nothing changes.
Softening feels like kindness. It is usually self-protection wearing a kind face. Scripture is unsentimental: faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
Exchange
If I really believed God’s love is the love that already approves of me in Christ — that I do not need this team member’s relief or comfort to know I am loved — how would that change what I am feeling about the conversation I have been avoiding, and what I am believing about God, myself, and the person I am leading?
The kindest thing you can say is often the thing you keep editing out.
“The kindest thing you can say is often the thing you keep editing out.”
— The Daily CHEW™
One Move You Can Make With Your Team This Week
Pick the conversation you have been softening. Write the unedited version on paper — three sentences. Here is what I am seeing. Here is the impact. Here is what needs to change, and by when. Have it this week, in person. God’s love moves from head to heart in the leader who risks the awkward sentence rather than watch the person stay stuck. If this is the only thing I do from this CHEW today, it is enough.
With you on the journey,
Ryan
What is the unedited sentence you have been keeping out of a conversation that needs it?
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