The Daily CHEW™
Moving God’s Love From Head to Heart for Christian Professionals
What’s Really Going On Here
Real boundaries are wisdom. Scripture honors a clear yes and a clear no. But the language of boundaries has become a respectable wrapper for something it was not designed to cover: an unspoken apology owed to a person we have wronged.
A real boundary is about your own next step. The version Scripture critiques avoids someone else’s reasonable question — dressed in language no one can push back on.
How God’s Love Reshapes This
Scripture sets the order: if you remember your brother has something against you, leave the gift, go, be reconciled, then return. Reconciliation comes before worship. The one who walks in the light is the one who confesses sin — not the one who finds a more sophisticated word for the same avoidance.
The Father’s love is secure enough to make confession possible. The leader who knows she is loved does not need the wall.
Exchange
If I really believed God’s love is the love that makes confession safe — already pleased with me in Christ, already running toward me — how would that change what I am feeling toward this person, and what I am believing about God, myself, and the relationship I have been avoiding?
A boundary built on an unsaid apology is not a boundary. It is a wall with theology painted on it.
“A boundary built on an unsaid apology is not a boundary. It is a wall with theology painted on it.”
— The Daily CHEW™
Walk
Name the relationship where you have been “drawing a line.” Ask: is there an apology underneath this line I have not spoken yet? If yes, write the apology before you write the boundary. The boundary may still be wise — but for the right reason. God’s love moves from head to heart inside that exact order — confession first, then clarity. If this is the only thing I do from this CHEW today, it is enough.
With you on the journey,
Ryan
Where is God asking you to write an apology before you write a boundary?
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