My Nine-Year-Old Asks Before She Says Good Morning

The Daily CHEW™
Moving God’s Love From Head to Heart for Christian Professionals

It is 8:14 on a Saturday morning. You walk into the kitchen. Before your nine-year-old says good morning, she scans your face for two seconds and asks the question she has learned to ask first: “Dad, are you working today?”

You were not planning to. But she has watched enough Saturdays to know that not planning to does not always mean not going to. She is not being rude. She is being a researcher. She has learned that your answer determines whether today is a day she gets the version of you she loves, or the version of you she manages.

What’s Really Going On Here

The people who love you most have built a quiet operating system around your moods. Your spouse reads your shoulders before you take off your jacket. Your kids read your phone-checking before you read the room. Your closest friends know which version of you to text and which to wait out. None of them are wrong. They have learned. And the question underneath is not “How do I get more done?” It is “Who is at home with these people today?”

How God’s Love Reshapes This

“We love because he first loved us.” (1 John 4:19, ESV) God’s love does not arrive on Saturday morning because the week finally ended. He has been with you in full attention since before the week began. You do not need to recover your worth on the weekend. You only need to receive the love that has already filled you, and then turn that same attention toward the people who have been reading you all week.

“God's love does not wait until the calendar clears.”

— The Daily CHEW™

Exchange: If I really believed God’s love had already met me on Saturday morning with full attention, how would that change what I am feeling and believing about God, myself, and the people who have been reading me all week?

Walk: Before you check anything else today, go find the person whose Saturday depends on your mode. Sit down. Ask one real question. Listen for the answer without rehearsing your response. If this is the only thing you do from this CHEW today, it is enough.

With you on the journey,
Ryan

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